Have you made a grocery list for the store? Have you made a list of what you want to pack for that weekend away? Have you written down a list of the errands you have to run when you get a minute? Congratulations! You’ve just planned more for those things than you have for your own death! The best gift you can give your family and loved ones is to fill out Directives pertaining to your health care and death care. You need to make your wishes known IN WRITING and while you’re at it, I want you to talk to your family and loved ones about what THEY want as well. I want you to be good to go.
You need to fill out an Advance Health Care Directive also known as a Living Will, which is a document that names a health care agent to speak for you if/when you are no longer able to. You also need an Advance Death Care Directive, which covers body disposition, extensive logistical information regarding bills, social media, what you want done with journals, photos, belongings and electronic devices, but more importantly, it is a cosmic instruction manual where you can write down the history of your joy and provide a helpful guide for your loved ones. This directive can also be used as an “In Case of Emergency” File and is much more practical and detailed than a Will. Yes, it’s all about death, but making an exit plan is more about the life you lead and how you want that life expressed when you die. David Bowie turned his death into an artful exit and inspired conversations about our own wishes. Celine Dion’s husband, Rene Angelil, knew he was dying and so he planned out his funeral in detail and because of Rene’s planning, Celine was able to go through her pain and loss peacefully and with control.
I never thought about death until my Mom died suddenly. She had nothing written down. On top of grappling with my DNA leaving the planet, I had to deal with a million unanswered questions regarding accounts and online passwords while trying to figure out what bills needed paying or what to do with her belongings and it was overwhelming. Her death caused a huge spiritual transformation for me and made me realize that I wanted to prevent others from going through what I went through. Though her death has been painful, it has also helped me discover my cosmic calling.
It is crucial to think about advance planning BEFORE we get a diagnosis and before it’s too late. If something happened to you, who would go into your house or apartment and how will they know how to contact your landlord or boss? Figure out your bills? What happens to kitty if you’re in the hospital? Do you want a feeding tube? What do you think happens when we die? Do you want to be cremated? Do you want your ashes made into tattoo ink or a firework? The less you think about these crucial questions, the more your loved ones will be forced to try and figure out the answers. Peace on Earth is often talked about, but I want you to realize, before it’s too late, that YOU have the power to give peace to your family and loved ones and all you have to do is write your wishes down! If you wish to truly transmute energy surrounding death preparedness, dying and the aftermath, you need to get organized and make your wishes known. By doing so, you are preventing anger, resentment, guilt, sadness, regret and uncertainty and giving the gift of peace, certainty, love and you are providing the emotional space for your loved ones to grieve. Are you Good To Go?
Amy Pickard is the CEO and Advance Planning Consultant for Good To Go! More information and an interview with Om Times Magazine Radio can be found on www.goodtogopeace.org. Check out her short, 6 minute video on the G2G! FB page here.