Then What?

Into this box – old paints and thinners and primers and stains and cleaners and brushes.  Take it away. Into that box - broken phones and batteries, cords and cameras no longer blinking.  Take it away. On the porch - books and clothes and more books and more clothes, and stuff and stuff and stuff.  Take it away.  Please take it away. And paintings from the walls, and dishes from the shelves, and papers and papers and papers.  I beg of … [Read more...]

The Energy of Things

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This piece has been a while coming as I’ve looked about our home deciding what on earth to do with all of Mike’s things. “There is no rush, take your time.  Things have energy and you will know when it is time.”  This was the wisdom of Ziri Rideaux, the fabulous woman from Friends Funeral Home, who helped guide me through the process. As we sat there, Elise and I, trying to absorb this new reality, she reminded me that everything was … [Read more...]

Cracked Open.

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What is the jumping point for this writing?  Where do I begin?  You are joining me mid-chapter.  So perhaps I need to bring you up to date.  On May 8, my husband Mike went in for a simple surgery.  Two and a half hours and a thousand sorries later, they told me he was gone.  That day has become my line in the sand, life before he passed away and then the everything after. As any who have experienced loss it is a rollercoaster of emotions.  His … [Read more...]

Making Love Soup

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It was bean soup I was making, cannellini bean made from scratch.  The beans had been soaking all day, and were now cooked perfectly (sometimes a challenge for me, getting them just right), salted and ready for the soup. Into my inherited cast iron pot I started with the bacon, just a few pieces for flavor and the fat for sautéing the vegetables.  First were the leeks and onions stirred until they sweetened and softened.  Next came the celery … [Read more...]

Are You Good to Go?

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Have you made a grocery list for the store?  Have you made a list of what you want to pack for that weekend away? Have you written down a list of the errands you have to run when you get a minute? Congratulations! You’ve just planned more for those things than you have for your own death! The best gift you can give your family and loved ones is to fill out Directives pertaining to your health care and death care. You need to make your wishes … [Read more...]

Five Ways To Add More Play To Your Day

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Five Ways To Add More Play To Your Day By Shelby Phillips Weinstein Dr. Stuart Brown has spent much of his career studying the benefits of play for adults. He says we shouldn't just set time aside to play, instead we should infuse each moment with it! I love that. But how do I do that? Really do that? Especially when I have a propensity for the serious side of life? Shocking I know, but true nonetheless. I have given this a great deal of … [Read more...]

SUPERWOMAN

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SUPERWOMAN By Jennifer Laurent We are moms and we are busy. Between caring for our kids, partners, friends, family, co-workers, bosses, and whoever else seems to cross our paths, it seems that we rarely make the time to care for ourselves. If you are anything like me, you find excuses as to why you don’t have time for you and why there are just so many other more important things to do with your time. A free moment in your day may consist of … [Read more...]

The Future Of Divorce

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“The Future of Divorce” By Greta Hassel, MFT & Coach, and Dennis Cohen, Esq. & Mediator For almost as long as there has been marriage, there has been divorce. Early Egyptians, Greeks and Romans practiced divorce, and even Deuteronomy, written approximately 4000 years ago, has explicit rules and procedures about divorce. In fact, a recent discovery of cave paintings in Southern France depict an obviously distraught man and woman fighting … [Read more...]

Water Retains The Memories

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They say that water retains the memories. Ah, so what do mine remember? They remember a belly large like a whale’s and a dark line that ran down from rib to pubic bones. They remember the sensation of a babe shifting inside. They remember as the waters inside discovered the waters outside, and how they reached for each other in recognition, my little one turning somersaults in delight. They remember the fear I felt when I stepped into … [Read more...]

Women Speak Out About What’s Gone Wrong With the U.S. Birthing System

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“Women die in childbirth as a result of systemic failures including: barriers to accessing care, inadequate, neglectful or discriminatory care, and overuse of risky interventions like inducing labor and delivering via cesarean section.” -- Amnesty International For many of us who haven't yet been through childbirth, there's an image we have of what it's like: A woman is rushed to the hospital in a taxi; she gets put in a wheelchair and is … [Read more...]