Then What?

Into this box – old paints and thinners and primers and stains and cleaners and brushes.  Take it away. Into that box - broken phones and batteries, cords and cameras no longer blinking.  Take it away. On the porch - books and clothes and more books and more clothes, and stuff and stuff and stuff.  Take it away.  Please take it away. And paintings from the walls, and dishes from the shelves, and papers and papers and papers.  I beg of … [Read more...]

The Energy of Things

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This piece has been a while coming as I’ve looked about our home deciding what on earth to do with all of Mike’s things. “There is no rush, take your time.  Things have energy and you will know when it is time.”  This was the wisdom of Ziri Rideaux, the fabulous woman from Friends Funeral Home, who helped guide me through the process. As we sat there, Elise and I, trying to absorb this new reality, she reminded me that everything was … [Read more...]

Angels Everywhere

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Over and over I’ve expressed my great thanks to family and friends, old and new, for their amazing outpouring of love and support. Though not religious in any formal tradition, I’ve come to call them my angels and feel blessed to be surrounded by so many. But the story I’m about to share taught me that angels are everywhere, in all walks of life, all shapes and sizes, sometimes when we least expect it. It was a week after Mike had passed away … [Read more...]

Cracked Open.

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What is the jumping point for this writing?  Where do I begin?  You are joining me mid-chapter.  So perhaps I need to bring you up to date.  On May 8, my husband Mike went in for a simple surgery.  Two and a half hours and a thousand sorries later, they told me he was gone.  That day has become my line in the sand, life before he passed away and then the everything after. As any who have experienced loss it is a rollercoaster of emotions.  His … [Read more...]

Making Love Soup

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It was bean soup I was making, cannellini bean made from scratch.  The beans had been soaking all day, and were now cooked perfectly (sometimes a challenge for me, getting them just right), salted and ready for the soup. Into my inherited cast iron pot I started with the bacon, just a few pieces for flavor and the fat for sautéing the vegetables.  First were the leeks and onions stirred until they sweetened and softened.  Next came the celery … [Read more...]

Dating Dilemma: What’s Worse – Being With An Imperfect Man Or Being Alone?

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Dating Dilemma: What's Worse - Being With An Imperfect Man Or Being Alone? By Julie Ferman As women, one of our “gifts” from our Creator is our amazing ability to discern. In the grocery store, we girls are masterful at picking out the absolute best banana from the bunch, the juiciest grapefruit and the freshest, most delectable tuna filet. Being picky about fruit and fish? This is good… But being overly picky about the men we choose to … [Read more...]

Secret Woman’s Business

The Truth About Sex - hosted by Dr. Nikki Goldstein Australia's #1 Sexologist & Relationship Expert WHEN:  Tuesday, February 12, 12pm - 3pm WHERE:  The Butterfly Room - Cecconi's West Hollywood, 8764 Melrose Avenue, 90069 WHAT: Includes a Delicious Three-Course Meal and Complimentary Gift Bag COST:  $65 RSVP: Cecconi's, 310-432-2000 (specify that you will be attending this event) Space is limited to 20 seats so call to … [Read more...]

The Future Of Divorce

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“The Future of Divorce” By Greta Hassel, MFT & Coach, and Dennis Cohen, Esq. & Mediator For almost as long as there has been marriage, there has been divorce. Early Egyptians, Greeks and Romans practiced divorce, and even Deuteronomy, written approximately 4000 years ago, has explicit rules and procedures about divorce. In fact, a recent discovery of cave paintings in Southern France depict an obviously distraught man and woman fighting … [Read more...]

Water Retains The Memories

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They say that water retains the memories. Ah, so what do mine remember? They remember a belly large like a whale’s and a dark line that ran down from rib to pubic bones. They remember the sensation of a babe shifting inside. They remember as the waters inside discovered the waters outside, and how they reached for each other in recognition, my little one turning somersaults in delight. They remember the fear I felt when I stepped into … [Read more...]

The “Tool” Chaser — Am I Enough Yet?

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I have been thinking a lot about my journey lately. Where have I come from and where the heck am I going? I have been thinking about all the tools I have learned in the self development arena in the last 15 years and how I’m still on that path. Still learning about and uncovering some more of myself; unburying those treasures I kept hidden in the dark forest of my mental filing cabinets. As it usually happens when I’m taking a shower; what is … [Read more...]