Then What?

Into this box – old paints and thinners and primers and stains and cleaners and brushes.  Take it away. Into that box - broken phones and batteries, cords and cameras no longer blinking.  Take it away. On the porch - books and clothes and more books and more clothes, and stuff and stuff and stuff.  Take it away.  Please take it away. And paintings from the walls, and dishes from the shelves, and papers and papers and papers.  I beg of … [Read more...]

The Energy of Things

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This piece has been a while coming as I’ve looked about our home deciding what on earth to do with all of Mike’s things. “There is no rush, take your time.  Things have energy and you will know when it is time.”  This was the wisdom of Ziri Rideaux, the fabulous woman from Friends Funeral Home, who helped guide me through the process. As we sat there, Elise and I, trying to absorb this new reality, she reminded me that everything was … [Read more...]

Cracked Open.

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What is the jumping point for this writing?  Where do I begin?  You are joining me mid-chapter.  So perhaps I need to bring you up to date.  On May 8, my husband Mike went in for a simple surgery.  Two and a half hours and a thousand sorries later, they told me he was gone.  That day has become my line in the sand, life before he passed away and then the everything after. As any who have experienced loss it is a rollercoaster of emotions.  His … [Read more...]

What matters?

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Last night I heard a friend had passed away.  She was my age.  After two months of surgery and great pain, the cancer got the best of her. As we spoke of her and the progression of her illness over cups of tea, the thing that struck me most was a story of how in her last days of delirium she played melodies in the air.  That visual, fingers moving in the shadows, playing a Mozart Concerto was hauntingly beautiful, and terribly painful. For … [Read more...]

Making Love Soup

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It was bean soup I was making, cannellini bean made from scratch.  The beans had been soaking all day, and were now cooked perfectly (sometimes a challenge for me, getting them just right), salted and ready for the soup. Into my inherited cast iron pot I started with the bacon, just a few pieces for flavor and the fat for sautéing the vegetables.  First were the leeks and onions stirred until they sweetened and softened.  Next came the celery … [Read more...]

I Am Tired Of The Eggshell Dance

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I Am Tired Of The Eggshell Dance By Marianne Simon You know what I mean. Tired of worrying about what people think. Tired of worrying about hurting people’s feelings. Tired of being afraid to make a mistake. Tired of talking quietly, cautiously. Tired of making waves, tired of tiptoeing thru life. I’m tired of holding it in, sucking it up. Tired of keeping it back. Tired of smiling until my cheeks crack. Tired of not trusting … [Read more...]

Turtle On A Rock (Or Who Needs Multi-Tasking?)!

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Turtle On A Rock (Or Who Needs Multi-Tasking?)! By Marianne Simon I am questioning when it became such a great skill to be able to multi-task. Maybe it is my age showing. Or maybe it’s just plain scary to watch a bike rider texting on their phone with one hand while taking a puff of a cigarette with the other. And for myself I know that when I eat lunch while entering my receipts in Quickbooks, I only up with a belly ache and grease all … [Read more...]

The Dreaded “What DO You Do?” Question

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How To Answer The Dreaded "What DO You Do?" Question By Marianne Simon How do you answer the dreaded "What do you do?" question? I was standing outside The Cap Theater in Sherman Oaks waiting to see an evening of women’s monologues. The event had been created by a dear friend, Christina Dunbar, who started Artistpreneurs On Stage , a program that supports women expressing themselves creatively. As was customary, a group of us … [Read more...]

Do You Know The Real Reason Speakers Love To Speak?

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Do You Know The Real Reason Speakers Love To Speak? By Marianne Simon Do you know the REAL reason speakers love to speak? Because it is a RUSH! Giving a great Presentation is Intense, Exhilarating, Intense, Mind-blowing When you are in the zone as a speaker – it is you up on the stage, fully standing in your power, your light, your mission. It is you, sharing yourself, arms wide open, completely focused and present. Now, ask any … [Read more...]

Sometimes Silence Speaks The Loudest

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Sometimes Silence Speaks The Loudest By Marianne Simon In the Midst of All the Noise and Confusion, Sometimes Silence Speaks the Loudest. As speakers we want to stand out, to have people take notice. But often, in the attempt to gain the attention, the tendency is to look out at what others are doing, so we strive to be funnier, louder, more daring than everyone else. Unfortunately, in focusing on what others are doing, we lose the key … [Read more...]